No public figures have stirred up more collective anger, hatred and vitriolic emotions than Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump. Call it acrimony, hostility, loathing, disgust, revulsion or abhorrence – it’s all the same. What may surprise you is that…
The hatred you feel for another is really self- hate
People do not cause our feelings. The most they can do is resonate what is within us. We like people who resonate good feelings and dislike people who resonate bad feelings. And we hate those who resonate – bring to the surface – our dark and ugly feelings.
It is our deepest, darkest, unkind and unloving self we despise, project outward and attack.
Thoughts cause feelings. Our thoughts about people and events ignite our emotions. Most of us don’t know Hillary or Donald. We only know what we think about them. If we don’t like those thoughts, we don’t like them. In truth, we are rejecting and rebelling against the content of our own mind.
In the case of this election, Trump and Clinton have agitated our deeply hidden and denied animosity. Like the villains in books and movies, we see them as bad guys, caldrons of corruption, narcissism, and deceit. We lash out against them with ugly words and pictures. Facts that don’t support our perception are ignored. Hillary Clinton, in particular, has been branded corrupt and deceitful, but facts show Donald Trump to be the bigger liar.
That is not to say that Mrs. Clinton is not deceitful. But who isn’t? The average person lies several times a day. And if we don’t lie to others, we lie to ourselves. We put on what has been called ‘the face of innocence’ while disowning our dark side and seeing it in others. We cling to the inflated image of ourselves and our distorted opinion of others even if it means discarding truth and rationality.
When we discount facts and figures that don’t support our beliefs and desires, we make decisions based on emotion, not reason. In the case of elections, those decisions can do irreparable harm not just to ourselves but to our country.
Cultural and ideological intolerance are at the root of most wars. Such intolerance is brewing within our country. As is often the case, it hides behind moral and religious righteousness.
Much that passes as idealism is disguised hatred. Bertrand Russell
There is nothing righteous, positive or constructive about hatred. It breeds separation and conflict. We forfeit inner peace with every unkind thought.
Let me not think that I can find the way to God, if I have hatred in my heart. A Course In Miracles
The price we pay to hate
In his book Why We Hate Rush Dozier explains that hatred has its roots in the most ancient areas of the brain – the amygdala, often called the reptilian brain. Hate is a primitive emotion triggered by fear, negative stereotyping and clashing thought systems. It has been called “the nuclear weapon of the mind.” Not just because of its effects on others. Hate raises blood pressure, suppresses the immune system and releases harmful biochemicals in the body and brain.
Fear breeds hatred, and hatred has the power to destroy everything in its path. Kevyn Aucoin
Our personal, national and international problems are not going away no matter who becomes our next president. But ongoing hatred projected at the government, other religions, and races is going to make things significantly worse. Hatred causes problems, it doesn’t solve them. It leads to alienation, conflict, and violence.
If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. Mother Teresa
Obviously, we have preferences in everything we do. So get out and vote for the candidate you prefer. But for the good of the country, and yourself, let the hatred go.